What you should know about Funeral Planning……………
When a loved one dies you will need to decide if you want a traditional casket funeral or cremation. A funeral home or crematorium will need to be contacted immediately.
- Casket or Cremation with full service. This would mean a visitation at the funeral home; reception; service at funeral home or church; the director will take you through the writing of the obituary, and help with paperwork such as pensions, insurance etc; and copies of the Statement of Death are provided. The cost of this service will vary depending on the funeral home you choose and what options you take. The basic cost is listed and then extras are added as requested – cost of casket/urn, the obituary. bulletins, cars etc. A traditional funeral will cost between $6000 – $10,000 for a basic funeral with full service carried out at the funeral home.
- Direct cremation This would mean cremation itself and copies of the Statement of Death ( # of copies vary depending on the crematorium) Cost for this service will vary depending on the funeral home – $2000+. Other costs involved would be whatever you spend in flowers. The obituary – $100 and up depending on the number of words.
If your decision is for full service through the funeral home you will need to contact the funeral home of your choice and the funeral director will take you through what needs to happen.
If your option is for direct cremation with the rest of the details tended to by your church family the following information will guide you through. Call the crematorium of your choice and notify them of the death stating that you wish to have direct cremation only.
Now, remember that nothing has to be done in a rush. You have time.
Things to think about and details to tend to
- Call the church office at 860-4000 or Rev. Matthew 576-2276 (cell). He will be able to walk you through the process and answer any questions you might have.
- Notify family and friends and begin to think about the obituary and service
- Visitation – can be arranged at the church if desired
- Reception following the service – if this is desired it can be arranged through the UCW of the church.
- Flowers can be purchased through local flower shops. If you desire family flowers only it would be best to state this in the obituary.
- The urn – An urn can be purchased through the local funeral home or through local business.
- Burial – if you already have a burial plot you will need to notify the cemetery to have the grave opened. If you do not have a plot but would like one, contact the cemetery of your choice.
- Guest Book – a guest book can be purchased at any local stationary store to be used at the time of visitation and service.
- Pictures – One picture to be placed next to the urn during the service. Other pictures can be placed on a picture board depicting the memories of your loved one. You might also like to create a power point slide show that can run during the visitation and/or storytelling at the service.
- The Service – in consultation with Rev. Matthew set date and time of service. Other things to think about:
- Scripture Readings
- Music (usually two or more pieces)
- People you would like to have involved
- Someone to share in the storytelling time
Writing the obituary: A Template:
Smith, John Henry, aged 82 died peacefully in his home on June 10, 1982. Born inHalifax,Nova Scotiaon April 1, 1900, he was the only son of the late John Smith and Jane (Jones) Smith. He was a carpenter for most of his working years and began his work at 17 helping with much of the rebuilding after theHalifaxexplosion. He was a master at his craft and always willing to lend a hand wherever and whenever needed. He was instrumental in the building of St. Everything Church where he worshipped until his death. Surviving are _________________________. Besides his parents John was predeceased by _______________________. Cremation has taken place under the direction of ____________. A memorial service will be held on Saturday June 14, 1982 at 2pm in St. Everything Church, Halifax, Rev. Born Again presiding. Reception will follow in the church hall. Family flowers only. Donations can be made in John’s memory to a charity of your choice.
If you would like to pre-arrange your funeral with the church call the office and set up a time to meet with Rev. Matthew. He will guide you through the process.